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The last girl I met online had a big surprise in store for me. We went out a few times. We liked each other more with every date. Then one thing led to another one night and we ended up in her bedroom. She stopped me before I unbuttoned her jeans. She had something to tell me that she hoped I’d understand. I said okay—shoot. Out it came: “I have herpes.”
Gulp. Okay… I’m sure it’s not too bad. I see commercials for herpes medicines all the time. Lots of people have it. It’s easy to get it, no matter how clean the person you’re with is. So I’m thinking this doesn’t say anything about her. I mean it’s not like she’s some turboslut or anything, picking up diseases with every new guy she does. No, she’s a nice, normal girl who just had bad luck one time. But now what? Am I supposed to risk getting it myself? And I mean, I’m looking for a long-term thing here. What about our kids? Are they gonna be okay? How does it all work?
I told her I needed to think about things. She was obviously hurt but I had to be cautious!! I said I was sorry and that I wasn’t judging her or anything but she obviously was hurt. The more I thought about the situation, the more I was grossed out by it. I got home and read up about it on the internet. Sure enough it’s something that lasts forever. And you can get it no matter how careful you are. And it’s possible for your kids to get it. I even read on one site that it can make you impotent! It was just too much for me. I felt really bad but I had to call it quits with this girl. It was sad to break up with her over that, but I was happy she told me. Otherwise my buddy downstairs would be sorry!
People's thoughts on this story
it was brave of her that she told you honestly before anything happened. She told you because she cared about you. That tells me she was a good-hearted person. You should have given her credit for that.
It was so good to tell you. Very brave I know 3 girls that have it and refuse to tell any of the guys they pick up in bars and sleep with or date that they have it. You singles should be very careful out there.
that you are a sad little man. 1 in 4 people have herpes. 80% of them do not know they have it. It is quiet possible that you have herpes. Herpes does not make you impotent. There way to prevent transmission of herpes to a newborn. You do not deserve a lovely young honest woman because you are a coward.
your research fell way short on the reality of herpes. I know many people with herpes, had a relationship with a guy who had it, and was married to a man for 10 years who also had herpes. I never contracted the disease. I know it was difficult for her to disclose her condition to you but she did. She was a responsible, honest person. Enough said about her character. What about you? What, were you planning on having sex with her without a condom?
Viki - Why is he a coward? Because he wouldn’t bang a girl with herpes? Yes it is sad and yes its great she was honest but i wouldn’t of went threw with it had a guy told me that, I guess that makes me a coward but at the same time you can’t help feeling iffy about it and wanting to protect yourself, Maybe you have it? And took offense? but he is definitly not a coward you are by judging his actions behind a computer screen.
None of the above our cowards. I have HSV1 - the less vicious of the two herpes types. The reality is the guy was protecting himself. He is not educated on the matter of HSV and has conformed to the stigma that surrounds it. Cant blame him but on the other hand it makes you wonder (as said above) if he intended on sleeping with her without a condom which then brings us back to how herpes is spread…. everyone who has herpes has (usually) slept with someone who has had the virus without being told they had it! He should consider himself very lucky the girl was of good character!
None of the above our cowards. I have HSV1 - the less vicious of the two herpes types. The reality is the guy was protecting himself. He is not educated on the matter of HSV and has conformed to the stigma that surrounds it. Cant blame him but on the other hand it makes you wonder (as said above) if he intended on sleeping with her without a condom which then brings us back to how herpes is spread…. everyone who has herpes has (usually) slept with someone who has had the virus without being told they had it! He should consider himself very lucky the girl was of good character!